Sunday, May 10, 2009

“He First Loved Us”

1st John 4:7-21

Reverend David Wiggs

Senior Pastor

 

 

It was a cold January day in Washington D.C.  It was during the morning rush that a man with a violin began to play on one of the subway platforms.  People rushed by coming and going to predetermined destinations.  Oh, a few slowed their pace, just listening for a few steps as they passed on by.

 

After several minutes someone dropped a dollar in the open violin case as they rushed on by.  He played for approximately forty-five minutes.  Thousands of busy people rushed by.  Only twenty dropped anything in the violin case.  Only six had enough time to linger and listen for a while.

 

Can you guess who stopped most often?  Children.  Many children wanted to stay and watch and listen.  But their parents pushed and pulled them along on their way. 

 

No one knew who this fellow was.  There were no signs or announcements.  The average person did not recognize that he was playing some of the most intricate violin music ever written.  Nobody noticed that he was playing a violin valued at 3.5 million dollars.  Nobody even recognized that he was the same fellow who plays to sold out concert halls around the world.  Nor did anybody know he was part of a social experiment about perception and beauty and priorities.

 

How much beauty do we miss that is offered to us without price?  How much joy do we miss that is offered to us without price?  How much love do we miss that is offered to us without price?  I wonder – would I have stopped?  Maybe, if I was on vacation, but not if I was on my way to work or on my way to an appointment.  Would you stop?

 

Are we too busy?  Have we become too inattentive to beauty and joy and love in the world?  Maybe we misinterpret the offer.  It could be a scam, or it could be a guy who doesn’t want to work and is just looking for a handout.  It could be a set-up to slow us down long enough for somebody else to run into us and swipe our wallet or something. Could it be that we miss these gifts offered because we have never been introduced to great music or literature or even great love in our lives.  That could be it. 

 

The world is changing.  I thought of this story that my mother shared with me a few years ago; maybe you have heard it too.  It tells of a fellow who read about the emerging drug problem because of methamphetamine.  It seemed like to him just one more version of the same story of how our young people are getting caught up in illegal drugs.  He asked his friend, "Why didn't we have a drug problem when you and I were growing up?"

 

The friend replied, “I had a drug problem when I was young.”   The first fellow said with great surprise, “What?” 

 

“Yeah, I was drug to church.  I was drug to family reunions and community socials no matter the weather.  I was drug by my ears when I was disrespectful to adults. I was also drug to the woodshed when I disobeyed my parents, told a lie, brought home a bad report card, did not speak with respect, spoke ill of the teacher or the preacher, or if I didn't put forth my best effort in everything that was asked of me.”

 

“In fact, I was drug to the kitchen sink to have my mouth washed out with soap if I uttered a profanity or talked back.  I was drug out to the yard to pull up weeds.  I was drug to the homes of family, friends, and neighbors to help out some poor soul who had no one to mow the yard, repair the clothesline, or chop some firewood; and, if my mother had ever known that I took a single dime as a tip for this kindness, she would have drug me back to the woodshed.”

 

“Oh yeah, I am telling you, I had a big drug problem when I was young!”

 

So maybe we miss the beauty and the joy and the love because we were not properly socialized.  I am not sure.  But 1st John helps us think about this very thing in our passage this morning.  Particularly he wants us to focus on making sure we do not miss the love of God.  He wants to be sure we see it and heed it and abide in it.

 

Listen again:  God’s love was revealed to us in this way:  God sent his only Son into the world so that we might live through him.  In this is love, not that we loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the atoning sacrifice for our sins.  Beloved, since God loved us so much, we also ought to love one another.  (v. 9 – 11)

 

Not that we loved God, but that God loved us.  In Christian theology, it all starts with God.  Creation starts with God.  Salvation starts with God.  Goodness starts with God.  Love starts with God.  It all starts with God and then we respond to God’s offering us all these good gifts of life and love and joy and beauty.  He never stops loving us, yet you and I know that too often we allow other things in life to push out the most important relationship, the one with our God and Father.  And maybe even more prevalent is that we stop responding in love. 

 

1st John really stresses this as he mentions it throughout this letter.  Just today in these few verses he says it over and over, because God loves us we ought to love one another.  Perhaps it comes home the best in that very last verse we read, verse 21:  The commandment we have from him is this:  those who love God must love their brothers and sisters also.  Or maybe even more simply said in verse 19:  We love because he first loved us.

 

Not because it feels good, although it often does. 

Not because we like it, although sometimes we do. 

Not because we know the brother or sister, although we might. 

We are commanded to love, that is to will the good of the other, to serve the other, because God first loved us.

 

I heard this story the other day.  It is a fairly common experience I think.  It was about a mother and a daughter.  The daughter said:  My mother came to live with us when she became infirm.  She lost Dad some years before and had lived on her own quite happily, in fact, for almost another twenty years.  But a couple of years ago, she had a heart attack.  She survived but something was different.  From that time on she was tired and cranky and sometimes just down right mean.  Somehow she just never regained her sense of joy and zest for living.  It got to be a chore to go see her because I knew she would want to complain about something or even worse criticize me, to me.

 

But she was my mother, and I knew I could never repay her for all that she had done for me.  I know she and Dad had sacrificed for us kids when we were growing up.  I know she endured my own period of sassiness and general anger at the world, often times aimed primarily at her.  So, I continued to go see her, but physically she was declining.

 

Finally I talked to my husband about having her move in with us.  He is a good man; he agreed.  It started off pretty well, but it was probably not two weeks in that I regretted my decision.  She was depressed.  She was mean to me.  She was rude to my husband.

 

I began to pray more than ever before, but the same old routine wore on for weeks without a change.  Finally I began to call for help.  Literally I began to call places for help.  The doctor’s office said there was not much they could do, maybe up her medication.  Several mental health agencies said they didn’t have expertise in geriatrics.  Then one counselor said, “You know I recently read an article that discussed some fabulous results a nursing home had when they introduced pets into the environment.”

 

She told me more about it and I thought of our friends who recently had a litter of kittens.  I hung up and called my friend right away.  They were glad to help.  I asked mom if she would like a kitten.  I knew she had loved cats growing up.  She told me she hadn’t had a cat for years and surely didn’t want to start up that nonsense again.  I was deflated.  That night I talked with my husband.  He lifted my spirits, so we decided - you know what - it was worth a try.

 

The next day I brought home a little black kitten, with a white nose streak and white tip on his tale.  I prayed and then carried her into Mom’s room.  I said,  “Look at this, I got us a new cat!”  She mumbled something about not caring and waved me out of the room.  But that evening when I took mom her dinner, the kitten (we now were calling her “Tips”) followed me.  She wandered around Mom’s room, rubbed up against her leg a time or two and then took up residence on the end of her bed.  Mom didn’t comment, nor did I.

 

Tips seemed to know her purpose in our household.  She took to following my Mom wherever she went, or maybe it was just because my husband and I were in and out of the house so much and Mom was always there.  At any rate, she slept in her room.  She would sit near her in the living room.  Within a few days I noticed Mom was letting her sit in her lap and she was stroking her.  A relationship was blossoming.  Mom seemed to calm down and act less abrasive over the next days and weeks.   She began to smile more and really became more content with her life than she had been since the heart attack.  Life settled back into a new normal, and Mom and I reestablished the loving relationship we had known and shared in a sweet and beautiful way until her death. 

 

Beloved, let us love one another because love is from God.  (v. 7)

 

 

 

 

1st John 4:7-21

He First Loved Us                                          5/10/05

 

It was during the morning rush that a man with a violin began to ________ …

 

Can you guess who stopped most often?  ______________.

 

How much beauty do we miss that is offered to us without __________? 

 

“I had a ________ problem when I was young.”

 

…he wants us to focus on making sure we do not ________ the love of God. 

 

v. 9 – 11

 

In Christian theology it ______ starts with God. 

 

verse 21:  The commandment we have from him is this: 

those who love God must love their brothers and sisters also.

 

verse 19:  We love because he __________ loved us.

 

 

We are commanded to love, that is to will the good of the other, to serve the other, because ______ first loved us.

 

My mother came to live with us… became ____________.

 

Finally I began to call for ________. 

 

 “Look at this, I got us a new ______!” 

 

Beloved, let us love ______  ______________

 because love is from God. (v. 7)

 

 

Kid’s Question:  Where does 1st John say that love comes from?